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Connecting with families reflects the many ways that caregivers/teachers partner hand-in-hand with families and their infants, toddlers, and/or preschool-age children. Family members are the most important people in young children’s lives, and caregivers/teachers need to talk to, listen to, and learn about families to build individualized support and continuity of care. These partnerships are critical to providing the best care for young children and for fostering a sense of safety and attachment. When early care and education providers and families work together to share information, plan together, and support the child’s abilities, needs, interests and progress, children are more likely to succeed in school and in life.

Here are some tips for involving and engaging with the families of young children in your care…

If you’ve been following along our mini blog series focused on resilient leadership, you now know the behaviors of a resilient leader, and you know what being a resilient leader can do for your teams. Hopefully you have already completed a Devereux Resilient Leadership Survey (DERLS), and if not, we encourage you to do so now!

What comes after completing a DERLS? First, reflect on your strengths (what you marked as “Almost Always”) and celebrate them! Next, review the items that you marked as either “Sometimes” or “Not Yet.” Now, start small and plan for one or two of those items that you feel are important to improve. Use the last page of the DERLS packet to help you list out your strengths, goals, and even some strategies that can help you meet your goals.

Strategies can be found from various sources. Pull from the internet, books, or ask colleagues, friends and family for ideas. To help get you started, below are some sample strategies focusing on one item from each of the four key protective factors. We hope you give them a try!

In last week’s blog post, we talked about the behaviors of a resilient leader. We also mentioned that we offer a free tool – the Devereux Resilient Leadership Survey (DERLS) – to help you reflect on those behaviors, to see where you are and hopefully reflect on your strengths and areas for growth.

Now that you know the behaviors of a resilient leader, let’s talk about what your workplace can look like should you display those behaviors. What does it look like when you focus on those protective factors of relationships, internal beliefs, initiative and self-control within your team?

“Resilient leadership” is the term used to describe those leadership behaviors that help others withstand crisis, adapt to or rebound from adversity (George Everly, Johns Hopkins University). Resilient leadership is a growing area of interest for the Devereux Center for Resilient Children (DCRC), as we see the ripple effect of resilience (or lack thereof) on children in early childhood settings, schools and child welfare services. Resilient leaders in the education and helping professions are in a position to create workplaces that foster the resilience of the adults who deeply impact children and their families. We at DCRC believe that a resilient workplace can lead to more resilient staff and more resilient staff can support the growing resilience of families and children.

But what exactly does a resilient leader do?

For young children, social and emotional health is a protective factor. They can use their social and emotional skills to bounce back from daily hassles and frustrations. Socially and emotionally healthy children can make friends, ask for help, express their feelings, and enjoy life. They know how to wait for a turn. They can try again when their block buildings fall down. They are willing to try new foods or learn a new game.

The Devereux Center for Resilient Children recognizes three within (internal) protective factors in young children that contribute to their resilience and social and emotional health: Initiative, Self-Regulation, and Attachment/Relationships. The adults in children’s lives, especially their parents/families, are so important in helping them develop each of these protective factors. It’s even more important for parents/families to understand the impact of doing so. What a child does now can give you a glimpse of what they will do later in life. Here are some examples…

Being a director in the early childhood field isn’t easy. In fact, most days it’s downright overwhelming with all of the things that need to happen every day to operate a successful program. There are so many moving pieces to juggle that we can sometimes forget to appreciate our staff. It is certainly unintentional, but it is a sad reality of the work. Directors know that their programs could not operate without the amazing staff. They know that they are an integral part of a successful program, and that more often than not, staff are working long hours, giving up family time to plan and prep, and that their compensation is not commensurate with the invaluable work that they do each and every day. Even given all of that, they keep walking through that door every morning and giving all they have to children and families.

Let’s remind ourselves of some things directors can and should be doing to help keep staff recharged and feeling supported…

More and more, we are seeing pet therapy popping up in our communities. Often times it’s hard to put into words just what animals help us achieve, but our minds and bodies can feel the effects. The benefits of animals assisting in the learning process for both teachers and children go far beyond what we could possibly imagine. When we think about building and supporting resilience and social-emotional learning in young children, incorporating animals into our classrooms/spaces is an innovative way to accomplish this. Animals help teach and reinforce necessary skills that help children become resilient.
We all need resilience to get through life’s challenges. It is critical to start building children’s resilience and to implement social-emotional learning during the early years of their life, so that they can use these skills as they grow and develop into adulthood. Bringing animals safely into the mix can be an added strategy to help us get there.

Here are some benefits of bringing animals into the learning environment…

Co-regulation is when adults help children calm down during a stressful situation. Self-regulation is an essential skill for children to develop, in order to be able to successfully maneuver through life’s ups and downs. Building self-regulation begins with co-regulation.

The development of self-regulation is dependent on a predictable, responsive, and supportive environment from a trusted adult. Self-regulation is a learned skill that needs to be modeled and supported for the child until they are able to do it for themselves. A child with healthy self-regulation skills is better able to manage their emotions, make appropriate decisions, and learn more effectively. The most important part of successfully co-regulating with a child is for the trusted adult to be regulated themselves. This allows the adult to be able to provide a safe and calm presence to support the child during a challenge, not adding to the stress the child is experiencing.

Here are nine tips for co-regulating with a child…

Behaviors adults find challenging from children can come in many forms. The most common ones, or the ones we can actually see, occur when children are externalizing (acting out) their feelings. Hitting and destroying toys are just two examples. These are more obvious and usually get more attention. Many children use this type of behavior to express the complex emotions they have yet to understand because they need our help, more boundaries, more skills, and often more connection with the adults in their lives.

Another type of behavior that adults may see from children can come in the form of internalizing (acting in) feelings. Hiding under a table and refusing to speak are two examples. These moments happen when feelings stay inside and are expressed with more self-destructive or avoidant behavior. Internalized behaviors are often easily ignored, but they still require adult support and attention.

Here are just a few strategies to try out when working through either external or internal challenging behaviors with a young child…

Good relationships between teachers and families are important in order for children to succeed. Teachers and families have an impact on children in a special way. When these positive efforts are combined, teachers and families can work as a team to help a child. Wonderful, supportive relationships between school and home can form when we rethink our own role. In the classroom, if we think of our role as not simply caring for and educating children, but as helping families get off to the right start, then our goals change. As parents, we should think of our role as the first, most important and long-lasting teacher our children will have. When teachers and families work together to share their knowledge and expertise, they form a partnership to help each child grow, learn, and succeed!

Here are ten ways to promote resilience using home and school partnerships…